You Kept The Relationship…But You Lost Yourself.

The thing is… you keep losing yourself in relationships because you keep sacrificing your sense of self to keep the love (relationship). But in choosing Love outside of yourself, you lose that relationship to yourself. Your decision says “I am not Love, I am not worthy of being chosen “. Which is not true, Love is all there is and all that you are, but you do not know your own truth so you seek it in another. Your relationship validates your idea that you are being loved, but it does not validate the truth that you are Love.

Because if you are Love, who could ever take it away? We hold onto scraps believing it is Love, and for the time being, it just may be. I’m sure, scraps feel like a full meal to a hungry dog, but they are just that, scraps . Your soul craves a full meal. It craves to be loved and known by you. That’s the feeling and responsibility we project onto others. We wish to be loved and known by them, without first truly loving and knowing ourselves. 

There’s nothing wrong with that desire, it’s very human. But scraps will feed you for a moment, while a meal will serve you for a lifetime. When two people come together who are already full, they feast for lifetimes. Their business, their love, their health, their wealth, everything that they touch prospers. It has no other choice but to do so. For in the presence of true love, darkness, lack, & confusion, cannot stand. Love is the greatest force there is. But in order to experience it, you have to first, embody it.

Love is many things…

• Patient
• Kind
• Honest
• Those things you know.
  • But love is also courageous…
  • When was the last time you truly honored your feelings?

And by honor, I mean listened and took action.You’re getting all the signs. You feel when things are off. You see how much it drains you. Yet you keep returning to a place that doesnt love you. Why?

What is that showing you? You do not love yourself. That is the mirror you are looking into. Someone can be great, but not great for us. Someone can be a soulmate and not be an everlasting love. Do not be in so much of a rush to experience love, that your forget that you are love. You are also an experience worth experiencing. You are also a love worth loving. Do not forget who you are.

It’s perfectly okay to want a partner to do life with, but do not seek them out of need. If you want to feel love, then love yourself. Stop asking someone else to do it. Because once you make loving you someone else’s responsibility, you’ve already given your power away. You’ve entered into a weakened state that says ,”I need you to love me so I can feel loved”. Co-dependancy is not love. 

 Love doesn’t ask you to sacrifice or abandon yourself to keep it alive. Real love makes you more of yourself.

• If you have to force it, then it isn’t love.
• If you have to wonder, it isnt love.
• Because when you know, you know

True love frees you. It eases you. It reminds you that God still loves and believes in you. I promise you, when it’s heaven sent, there’s no doubt about it. You know who sent it to you.

Now listen, I’m not telling you to run out here and leave your partner. What I am saying is to leave behind that version of you that sacrifices yourself for love. Become the love that you seek, and see what you see. Have you chosen love ? Or have you chosen your needs?

When you stop looking for love outside of yourself everything becomes clear. You are either with the person of your dreams or the person who mirrors your wounds. Be brave enough to know and see the truth!

I hope this helps 💖